It's a really pretty straightforward statement but somehow I found myself confused (again!) after reading it. Part of me wants to agree with it since my own life experiences would be more than enough evidence to support this - I have never been friends with any of my exes, period. The other part, however, refuses to accept things for what they are. I mean, why can't relationships be more permanent? Why is there even a need for an expiration date? Isn't there a happily ever after? I would say my bias would be to believe my own fairy tale.
I guess the reason why this fairly commonsensical statement bothered me so much is because (for whatever it's worth) I miss someone. I really don't know what happened between us but maybe there's no point in trying to figure this out now. I myself must have had a change of heart. Or maybe I just got tired of the complications. Maybe it's me. Maybe it was him. Or maybe it was just meant to end. For now, I guess it would be best to not actively think about the reasons contributing to our falling out. Instead, let me hold on to the slightest possibility that this song wants me to believe. It's much easier this way.
Sorry, my head is just so mushed up right now that I feel that I have somehow contradicted myself at some point, somewhere. Let me just sleep this through. Ugh.
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tama yan. tulog na tristan.
they say nothing really lasts forever... well, maybe it's just how some people see it...i guess it's just a matter of perception... but i believe in that...:) gud nyt...have a happy dream :)
things "expire" because it looses that main ingredient. as long as both nurture that main ingredient in a partnership, then it will never expire.
but holding on is another character in itself. :)
I always believe that friendship should be a factor/foundation in every relationship. Maybe that's the reason why I'm friends with all my ex-bfs. The romantic love might disappear but the respect that stems from friendship still remains. :D
it takes two to tango sabi nila...
both must exert effort to make their relationship work.
ahahahaha tulog na daw sabi ni CB....
There is no happily ever after cuz everything ends and everyone dies. Fact of life.
well my relationships (meaning yung kami na) only lasted a month. yeah it's funny but that's what happened to those 2.
even though i haven't had a looooonng relationship stage, i still believe that someday i'll have that. (or baka na-traffic lang sya, or magji-jeep pa from korea, ewan ko)
(okay medyo lumilihis na sa topic)
anyway, yeah relationships have lifespans. it's just that we wouldn't figure out right away until how long it would last. if it would end the next month, or until your last waking day.
it's not a pack of hotdogs with the "best before" seal, or canned goods with an expiration date.
(okay lumilihis uli, pero may point ako promise!)
so i promised to myself that if ever i'd go for another relationship, i would be in one that i would be proud of or in one that i wouldn't regret being there... no matter how long or short it may be.
anyway i always think that it's for forever, so kung hindi pala then sorry nalang... i'll just call my friends, drink, and cry.
(woooo haba!)
In Wong Kar-wai's 1994 film Chungking Express, one of the characters said:
"Somewhere, somehow, everything comes with an expiry date. I wonder if there's anything in the world that won't expire?"
I couldn't help but remember the film when I read the title of your post.
I think some relationships (whether friends or lovers) can last a lifetime. Others can end as people continuously define and redefine themselves and their values.
In the process, people can grow closer or grow apart.
It's okay to miss people Tristan. Sometimes we click only at certain points in our lives, maybe at that moment we shared something, looked at the world in the same way, dreamt of the same things.
We are the sum of our memories. And no one can take that away from us. Not the hurt, not time, not death.
And as for me, I chose to believe this:
"If my memory of him has an expiration date, let it be 10,000 years..."
Kane
yah..... thats true..... :'-[
maybe? maybe it's really like that. coz its really like that.
gusto ko yung comment ni mcvie ;-)
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teka ano yung independence mo? Independence from whom? what? ;p
Oh believe me, the memories that linger are those that eat you up. The could've beens, the what ifs, all the open-ended beginnings with no satisfactory endings. No closure, and worse, sometimes no opportunity for catharsis and the primal scream of anguish and despair.
The happy times? You'll need company to recall them, and only with those you shared the happy times with.
My theory is that our bodies are wired to remember pain so we'll know how to flee or fight when pain-inducing situations happen again. Some people are haywired. They find perverse pleasure in pain. And they want other people to share the pain so they write books, make movies, and sing off-key.
The point of all this is that relationships end, but painful memories don't. So don't fight it. Grow with flow. =) And until such time that an EMP bomb erases all content from digital storage media, Tristan is forever.
relationships have life spans, because life has no guarantee.
it's like buying appliances that you will use for a certain period of time. if you use it with utmost care, it will last long.
i believe that the persons involve serve as the preservative... yun lang! kelangan ko na din atang itulog ito!
i love thiz zong
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