Tristan is Back

Here's the thing - my intended long blog holiday needed to be shortened. I am infamous for short blog holidays anyway, so there you go.

Things have happened and now I need your advice. I sort of got myself into a mess - well, I'm not yet there yet but as it is, things are already quite complicated. There's this guy (don't you just love it when I start a blog this way?) whom I met one day in the hallway. We live in the same apartment building and his unit is just two floors up. We connected through a smile that turned into a conversation. He has fallen for the typical Tristan pick up modus operandi. So we continued talking online. He got my email add... then the messenger... you know how it works. Please note that: (1) he seems like a real person; (2) a complete human being; (3) Not a body part; and (4) we've seen each other. Clear?

Now to continue - I have been wondering all this time why we have not really done it. I mean, I am sure I have sent out the sex vibe and I have gotten it from him too. Conversations involving sexual position and roles are enough insinuations, right? Anyway, since I met him, he has been sending me emails asking whether I am available to meet up on this particular day and time. He sends these emails on the oddest of hours, i.e. my office hours, early mornings. I found myself diligently replying to his messages. I even gave him my number to facilitate things. He never called and I, I never understood why. Until today.

My low EQ finally got to me. I lost my patience. I got tired of replying to his emails. Quite directly, I told him that given his rather odd schedule (he can't meet after my office hours and on weekends) and since we cannot seem to find a good time to fuck, we might as well drop the idea of even doing it and move forward. He sort of panicked and asked for my earliest available schedule. He says that he'll fit it in. For the last time, I checked my calendar and we agreed on the date and time.

But he had revelations. And these now make me iffy. Apparently,

1. He has two small kids who stays with him every other weekend. I really don't care about the kids but his schedule, due to the kids, sucks.

2. His work schedule is odd. It's not just graveyard - alternating graveyard or mid-shifts. I really did not grasp the full rationale behind the schedule but he mentioned he's from the medical field so I guess it's normal.

3. He also claims that he has a girlfriend.

But wait there's more.

4. The girlfriend is Pinay.

And it gets more complicated.

5. She lives with him. She has also met one of my Filipino friends who also lives in the same building. Blogger's Note: Yes, this is true. I have heard my friend speak of her. Girlfriend has expressed intention to meet me and my friend one of these days to hang out and to maybe introduce to us the boyfriend who's now trying to get me to bed.

And the funny thing is:

6. The boyfriend knows that the girlfriend has already met my friend. He's smart.

And I hate the fact that:

7. The guy is gorgeous. Hot even. Wait, celibacy has somehow perverted my standards, he's bed-able.

8. And he's into me, at least that's what he says. Blogger's Note: I saw a hard on, on cam, so probably it's true.

9. I am a good person and that these little things really bother me. Blogger's Note: Just to clear things, he's not little. Giggles.

10. And thoughts of being the secret third wheel has entered my consciousness. I may accept, if proposed.

So there, Tristan is back. I now need your advice. Any suggestions on how to handle this?